How to Support Someone Who Is in an Abusive Relationship

Many people unknowingly push their loved ones further into isolation with well-meaning but unhelpful advice like “Just leave!” But supporting someone in an abusive relationship requires patience, understanding, and knowledge.

Key Ways to Offer Support

1. Listen Without Judgment – Let them share their story at their own pace.

2. Validate Their Feelings – Acknowledge their pain and confusion.

3. Avoid Giving Ultimatums – Telling them to “just leave” can make them feel trapped.

4. Help Them Create a Safety Plan – Offer guidance on planning an exit strategy if and when they are ready.

5. Respect Their Decisions – Leaving an abusive relationship is complex. Offer continued support regardless of their choices.

Understanding the psychological effects of abuse and the cycle of control is essential to being a supportive friend or family member.