Become Highly Protective of Your Energy
In an abusive relationship, your energy—both emotional and physical—is constantly drained.
Abusers thrive on keeping you exhausted, confused, and emotionally depleted because it makes you easier to control. If you want to reclaim your power and take steps toward healing, the most crucial thing you can do is become highly protective of your energy.
Why Protecting Your Energy Matters
Your energy is your lifeline. It fuels your ability to think clearly, make empowered decisions, and take action in your own best interest. When an abuser drains your energy, you may feel trapped, unable to make changes, and overwhelmed by even small tasks. Protecting your energy means safeguarding your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.
5 Ways to Protect Your Energy from an Abuser
Stop Explaining Yourself – Abusers manipulate by twisting your words and using them against you. The more you explain yourself, the more ammunition they have. Instead, use short, firm responses or no response at all.
Become Boundaried – Decide what behaviors you will no longer tolerate. This could mean refusing to engage in arguments, not responding to late-night texts, or walking away when they start an abusive rant. Boundaries are for you—not for them to agree with.
Detach Emotionally – Emotional disengagement is one of the most powerful ways to protect your energy. Recognize that their behavior is about them, not you. When they try to provoke a reaction, remind yourself, “I don’t have to play this game.”
Limit Your Exposure – The less time you spend around them, the less opportunity they have to drain you. If you live with your abuser, create mental distance by listening to music, reading, or engaging in activities that strengthen you internally.
Prioritize Self-Care – Sleep, nutrition, movement, and mindfulness practices are not luxuries; they are necessities. When you take care of yourself, you become less vulnerable to their manipulation and more capable of making empowered decisions.
Reclaim Your Power
The more you protect your energy, the stronger you become. You don’t have to give them access to your emotions, your reactions, or your peace. Start today by setting even one small boundary, and watch how it shifts your sense of control.
You are worth protecting.
xo, Denalee