You Are Allowed to Change Your Mind

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that changing our minds meant we were unreliable.

So we stay.

We keep volunteering.

We maintain friendships we've outgrown.

We continue traditions nobody enjoys anymore.

We finish books we don't even like. (Seriously. Why do we do this?)

And sometimes we remain committed to much bigger things simply because we once said yes.

But the woman who made that decision may have known less than the woman you are today.

New Wisdom Is Allowed to Change Old Decisions

There is something honorable about keeping our commitments.

But commitment and captivity are not the same thing.

Sometimes new information changes what we know.

Sometimes circumstances change.

And sometimes we change.

Healing can make us especially aware of this because we're learning to make choices from a healthier place. Things we once tolerated may no longer feel acceptable. Things we thought we wanted may no longer fit.

Changing your mind doesn't necessarily mean the original decision was wrong.

It may simply mean you've grown.

You are not required to remain loyal to a decision made by a version of you who had different information, needs, or circumstances.

Give Yourself Permission to Reconsider

Maybe there is something in your life right now that deserves another look.

Not because it's bad.

Not because someone else thinks you should change it.

Simply because you are allowed to ask:

Is this still right for me?

You may decide the answer is yes.

Wonderful.

But if the answer is no, you don't have to turn that realization into an indictment of your past.

You chose then with what you knew then.

You can choose now with what you know now.

That's not failure.

That's growth.

And occasionally, growth looks surprisingly simple:

Closing the book.

Leaving the committee.

Changing the plan.

Ordering something completely different from the menu.

You are still allowed to surprise yourself.