Jealousy is Not About Love — It's About Possession
“I just get so jealous because I love you so much.”
It sounds passionate. Maybe even flattering. But make no mistake — jealousy is not love.
It’s control. It’s insecurity. And in abusive relationships, it’s about possession.
Jealousy becomes abusive when it’s used to:
Monitor your time, your phone, your friendships
Control who you talk to or where you go
Punish you for being “too friendly” or “too attractive”
Accuse you of cheating or flirting, without cause
Make you feel guilty for living your life
You might have heard:
“Who were you texting?”
“I don’t like the way he looked at you.”
“Why do you need to dress like that?”
“You’re mine. You don’t need anyone else.”
This isn't about love — it’s about ownership.
In healthy relationships, there’s trust, security, and freedom. Jealousy might pop up occasionally, but it’s handled with honesty and maturity. In abusive relationships, jealousy is a weapon. It creates fear, isolation, and constant self-monitoring.
Abusers often disguise this behavior as devotion — but it’s actually an attempt to shrink your world down to them.
Real love doesn’t cage you. It celebrates you.
Love is never possessive.
You’re not causing undo attention by being attractive, friendly, or social.
You are not property.